As a sleep consultant, I know firsthand how room sharing with your baby can feel like both a blessing and a challenge. While the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends room sharing for at least the first six months (ideally up to one year) to reduce the risk of SIDS, it’s crucial to create an environment that promotes restful sleep for both you and your baby. If you're struggling with constant night wakings or an unsustainable sleep setup, you're not alone! Here are the essential do’s and don’ts of room sharing so your whole family can get the rest they need.
The Do's of Room Sharing
1. Use White Noise to Block Out Disruptions
If every tiny noise wakes your baby—or keeps you up—invest in a white noise machine. White noise mimics the soothing sounds of the womb and helps mask disruptive noises, like a creaky floorboard or your partner’s snoring. A consistent sound environment makes it easier for your baby to settle and stay asleep.
2. Create a Visual Barrier
By the time your baby is around six months old, they may wake more frequently simply because they know you're nearby. Try using a room divider, curtain, or even repositioning the crib to reduce direct visibility between you and your baby. This small change can help everyone sleep more soundly while still keeping your baby safely in your room.
3. Stick to a Consistent Bedtime Routine
A predictable bedtime routine is key to great sleep. Whether it’s a warm bath, a quiet story, or a gentle lullaby, following the same steps every night signals to your baby that it’s time for sleep. A consistent routine also helps your baby learn to fall asleep independently, even in the same room as you.
4. Be Open to an Earlier Transition
While the AAP recommends room sharing for up to a year, many babies—and parents—sleep better when the baby moves to their own room around six months. If your little one is waking more frequently due to your presence, it might be a sign that they’re ready for their own space. Every family is different, so trust your instincts and do what works best for you.
The Don'ts of Room Sharing
1. Don’t Co-Sleep (Bed Sharing)
Room sharing and co-sleeping are not the same thing! While it might be tempting to bring your baby into bed, the risk of SIDS and suffocation increases significantly with bed sharing. Your baby should always have their own sleep space—a firm crib or bassinet with no loose bedding, pillows, or stuffed animals.
2. Don’t Ignore Sleep Disruptions
If your baby is waking frequently because they can hear or see you, it might be time to consider transitioning them to their own room earlier than planned. Frequent night wakings can lead to overtiredness, making it harder for your baby (and you!) to get quality sleep.
3. Don’t Neglect Your Own Sleep Needs
Your sleep matters, too! If room sharing is causing major sleep disruptions, it’s okay to reassess your sleeping arrangement. Well-rested parents are better equipped to care for their babies, and there’s nothing selfish about making changes that help the whole family sleep better.
4. Don’t Rely on Room Sharing Alone for Safe Sleep
While room sharing reduces the risk of SIDS, it’s only one piece of the safe sleep puzzle. Always place your baby on their back to sleep, use a firm mattress, and keep the crib free of blankets, bumpers, or stuffed animals.
Finding the Right Balance
Room sharing can be a beautiful way to keep your baby close and safe during those early months, but it’s important to create a setup that supports healthy sleep for everyone. If it’s working well for your family, fantastic! If not, don’t hesitate to make adjustments that prioritize restful nights for you and your baby.
Remember, every baby is different, and there’s no one-size-fits-all approach to sleep. Whether you need guidance on room sharing, transitioning to independent sleep, or overcoming night wakings, I’m here to help. Let’s get your family the sleep they deserve!
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